Pole Dancing and Writing – A Comparative Post

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Happy 2014!

rf getty pole dance (2)It’s a new year once again and a new beginning. New beginnings often bring in new challenges and opportunities. Anyone who knows me or has followed this blog long enough knows that I am all about seizing opportunities, owning them, and learning, growing, igniting.

Well this year, I’m starting off with a bang. Killer editing deadlines, finishing up a novella for release in a month (give or take), and pole dancing. Yup. You read right—pole dancing.

Why pole dancing? Why not? Sure I could claim it’s for research, and I suppose in a way it is. But honestly, it’s just another fun, bold adventure I wanted to take.

And as with everything I do, it wasn’t difficult to compare my endeavors with writing. No, really.

1. Learning to pole dance is stepping out of the box (and comfort zone) and doing something fun, risky and terrifying. So it can be for the author trying out a new genre or project. Or for the newbie writer embarking on their first manuscript. Or the author about to dive into the growing new world of self-publishing for the first time.

2. Pole dancing works to strengthen your core to support the body. Just like writers need to make sure the story plot (core) is strong. A flabby plot is too weak to support the story. No sagging middles!

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Trophy Bruise
Fig. 1

3. Pole dancing creates flexibility in surprisingly many muscles. Writers need flexibility in many of their muscles, too. Think of how pliant and adaptable we have to be in such areas as time, changing storylines, writing methods, in the moving parts of character GMCs, and even where we write, to name a few.

4. Besides spinning, there are tricks that can be done on the pole that are almost acrobatic, sans the safety net. In writing, these “tricks” might equate to something as simple as a unique voice, unusual swag, or cool, cutting-edge marketing methods. Or it could mean something tougher like using technology to allow readers a chance to pick from a choice of story endings.

5. Writers hear it often—there are no new stories, only new ways and variations to tell old tales. There is one pole but many types of spins that are done on and around it. Besides putting the sexy in slinking up and down the pole without ever leaving the floor (no twerking!), I’ve learned four spins—the sit, the drag and fly, the fireman, and my most ambitious one to date, the leg hook backward spin.

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Trophy Bruise
Fig. 2

6. Practice, practice, practice! Pole dancing is not easy and I currently look like a not-so-graceful drunk elephant swinging wildly in a circus tent. But I will get better as long as I keep at it. This is true with anything worth doing. A writer has to hone their craft and the only way to do this is to keep writing.

7. There are a lot of “trophy bruises” that come with pole dancing. I’m kinda proud of my bruises. They are tangible evidence that I am working hard toward something I enjoy. For authors, those bruises come in the form of tough critiques, poor contest results, agent/editor rejections, and harsh reviews. Ouch! But those black and blue punches we take makes us stronger—better.

8. New students to pole dancing class set goals. What is it they want to achieve. More flexibility, be fit, earning more tips than co-workers, to tone muscles? Writers haverf getty pole dance (1) goals, too. Most want to finish, sell, and publish a book. My personal pole dancing goal? To be able to hang upside down on a pole using only my thighs. Just wait…

There you have it. How pole dancing and writing are in common. What else can you take away from this post? Don’t be afraid to try be bold. Learning something new makes you stronger. Stretch yourself. And, you are never too old to pole dance.

Comments and thoughts are always welcome.

16 Responses to Pole Dancing and Writing – A Comparative Post

  1. Fun post. I’ve heard pole dancing is great for your core. I prefer paddle boarding, but that’s not an option for many people. I agree that one is never too old to try something new.


  2. jbrayweber says:

    When I move to the Caribbean I plan on doing a lot of paddle boarding. I’ve not done it before, but it sure looks fun. Living in the BVI, do you do alot of paddle boarding?

    Nope…you are never too old for something new.
    Thanks, Ella!


  3. I live in the USVI, and I do. So much so that I bought my own board.


  4. jbrayweber says:

    That’s awesome, Ella. I’m coming for a visit. 😉


  5. Great post, but I’ll give pole dancing a pass.It’s a little too far out of the box for me. At my age, on the other side of sixty, the joints don’t work as well as they did, and since the body is in gravity free fall, I’m more likely to land on my head. Talk about a trophy bruise then! All the more power to you. Happy New Year.


  6. jbrayweber says:

    As an aside, Susanne, there is a lady in one of my classes who is pushing 70. The key is knowing what your body can and can not do. At any rate, it doesn’t have to be anything too risky, but giving something new a go is a great way to spark up your life and bring in a bit of vivacity. 🙂 Here’s to a great new year, my friend.


  7. girldrinkdrunk says:

    What is this? Post For Jeff Wednesdays? 😉

    Spill–some critic sniped that it was physically impossible for your lady pirate heroine to ‘slide down the mast pole doing an Allegra extended’ and you had to prove it could be done. 🙂 Way to Go!


  8. jbrayweber says:

    HAHAHAHAHA! Funny…Jeff hasn’t even commented. Must have left him speechless.

    Kristen…you’ve got my number. Yes, I had to prove my pirate heroine could indeed do an inverted spin with a dagger in her teeth so that she could gracefully land on the ship’s deck and commence with battle. Arrgh!

    Next week, I’ll be sure to go back and post a Hottie McHunk. 😉


  9. Ruth says:

    Ok, I understand the comparision, but at least I don’t have yucky brusies.. oh wait I forgot the ones I get from banging my head against the wall. I just waiting for you to have the pole installed by your stairs. Have fun and may you spins be graceful and your sails filled with wind.


  10. jbrayweber says:

    >>>>may you spins be graceful and your sails filled with wind<<<< Awww…I I really like this. Thanks, Ruth. Now quit letting the voices in your head drive you so crazy. At least bang your head on a pillow. Sheesh!


  11. Sarah Andre says:

    YIKES to the bruises!
    I’ll stay inside my box then, thank you. 🙂
    Glad you’re enjoying it and LOVE the silhouette of you at the top of the post!


  12. jbrayweber says:

    Come om, Sarah. I bet you would love it. Just saying…since we are like two peas in a pod, and all. 😉


  13. NancyS.Goodman says:

    Reblogged this on Rakes Rogues and Romance and commented:
    I’m kind of loving this post-Pole dancing and writing. Who wold think the two could go hand and hand? It’s all about stepping outside f your comfort zone and taking that risk and finding the reward when you do something out of the box. Something so unusual that you can lookm back and say “Wow. I never thought I would be that type of person to try that.” It’s all about taking risks and finding the reward. Writeres do it every time they send out a manuscript to an agent or editor hoping for a yes. But no risk, no reward.
    What have you risked and for what reward?


  14. jbrayweber says:

    Thanks, Nancy. I’m real big on taking risks. If you don’t, how do you know what you can accomplish? 😀


  15. jeff7salter says:

    Well, I wouldn’t call it “dancing” and I seriously doubt it looked attractive to any who saw it, but when I was a kid, I was always climbing the playground equipment in ways it was not meant to be climbed. I’d be upside down, sideways, swinging, jumping off, etc. Fell down a lot, too.
    And, in writing, I’ve repeated all those moves …especially the falling down.


  16. jbrayweber says:

    Hahahahahahaha! Falling down…ain’t that the truth. We’ve got to stand back up, dust off our knees (or faces, if it was a faceplant), and keep on keeping on.


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